I wasn't planning on commenting on this, but the recent rash of phone calls and emails I have received has prompted me to say a little something.

First and foremost, my thoughts go out to the family of the guy that died this past weekend in a motorcycle crash. My heart always goes to the families of these people and this particular crash doesn't change that.

Now, I'm getting up on my soap box so bear with me while I get my balance.

This guy was killed while on a "Helmet Protest" ride. He was protesting because the law says he has to wear a motorcycle helmet to protect his head when he rides his motorcycle...and he died. Ironic isn't it? Please understand, I am all for personal choice and taking responsibility for your actions, and this guy was exercising his right of personal choice...but he is now...Dead.

Because this is America, and I consider myself a patriotic person, I will defend the right to be stupid and wrong, that is guaranteed by the constitution and I won't argue with that. However, that being said, riding a motorcycle is a risky task anytime you swing a leg over that saddle, and the idea of not doing whatever you can in any small measure to protect yourself is in my mind idiotic at the least. And then there is the family. Was it their choice to lose a close member of their family? I'm thinking probably not.

I know what head injury looks like up close having lived it for the past 17+ years. Watching someone you love that was a bright light in your own life suddenly become a very dim glow is heartbreaking and every day you wish it were a bad dream and when you wake up it never happened, but day after day it's the same and it will be tomorrow, and the day after, and the day after that.

When I taught people to ride I tried to impress on them the importance of ATTGATT, "All the gear, all the time". Most people got it, some not. But I know I did everything I could to convince them that if it wasn't something they chose to believe from me, at least think about the people that love them and what kind of effect it would have on them if they suddenly find them without you around, or worse, around but not the same person you knew and loved.

I'm sorry, but my sympathy isn't with the guy that crashed...Did I mention that he's dead?

Live your life responsibly, there are others that love and care about you and want you around. Enjoy whatever sport and activity you choose, but do it with love for the people you may leave behind. The comment I keep hearing is, "He died doing what he loved." Really? He loved dying? I think if he had the opportunity to do it over he would probably not choose that.

I'm getting down from my soap box now. I'm angry still, and I realize that I can't save everyone with my talk, but if I can get through to one or two people....I'm happy with that.

What a fantastic, sunny, warm, long weekend it was! I can't remember a 4th of July holiday that was this nice in a really long time, no rain, nice and warm, and...quiet!

I spent time cutting bushes and trimming tree limbs away from my driveway, cooking on the grill, listening to music and really just enjoying some time for quiet reflection. I thought a lot about my family and good friends that are far away and wishing they were closer. I miss spending time with them and wish we could not be so far apart. It's strange how when people are close by you don't really think about it because they are close enough to reach out and touch, but when they go away the distance makes your heart hurt. I think we should find a way to tell those people more often that we miss them even when they are close by.

Physical distance doesn't have to be so far if we make a point out of bringing those we care about closer in our heart.

You know who you are, and know that you are missed and loved.